BOUNDARIES AND BETRAYAL

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I would like to offer you an example of how we can customise and Emotion Code session to whatever your needs may be. I recently was sent an article from a friend and thought the information was perfect to use with the Emotion Code clearing techniques. The article reads…………

“A history of betrayal can make boundary setting very difficult.  The type of betrayal relevant to boundary setting is the violation of the parent/child contract in which the parent is to support the development and thriving of a unique individual.  This type of betrayal occurs again and again when a parent doesn’t see the unique child in front of them, but rather projects or pushes their own identity onto the child.  This is a violation of the boundary between self and other.  It is similar to someone coming over to you while you are sitting reading a book at a coffee shop and telling you who you are and what you should be expressing, believing, and doing.

When this kind of boundary violation occurs regularly throughout childhood, the child learns to abandon their own internal sense of what is true in favor responding to what others want.  The natural inclination to listen to your needs, creativity, and thoughts while considering others, is replaced with a mandate to focus only externally on what others and the situation seem to demand.  Without an ability to listen internally, you have no way of knowing what boundaries you need to set.

If this sounds familiar, and you are now on the path of healing; then you are learning to listen to and trust yourself.   In the old situation, it was dangerous to set a boundary.  At the very least it landed you in isolation from those you needed to stay connected to in order to survive.  Even now, disagreeing with someone or setting a boundary may trigger intense anxiety.

As a part of your healing path you will need to set boundaries and experience acceptance and support of that many times over.  Ideally, you would experiment with boundary setting with those who are secure enough in themselves that they can support you being you, however different from them you are.  Each time you have a positive experience of boundary setting, your body, heart, and mind will trust it a little more.  You will allow yourself to listen internally.  Slowly, as you listen, your myriad and complex experience will unfold for you.  You will know more and more what is true for you, and learn how to create a thriving life.”

http://www.wiseheartpdx.org/post/861?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=facebook

Working with the above information I made a list of statements, beliefs, issues etc and began clearing the emotions connected to those themes / topics. Listed below is the information that came through and was cleared from a client ……

VIOLATION OF PARENT / CHILD CONTRACT
HOPELESSNESS – Absorbed at age 6 from Mother
LONGING – Absorbed at age 6 from Mother
LUST – Absorbed at age 5 from Father

BOUNDARIES
HUMILIATION – Absorbed at age 8 from Father
LOVE UNRECEIEVED – Absorbed at age 6 from Mother
BETRAYAL – Age 17
GUILT – Age 12
LONGING – Absorbed at age 7 from Mother
UNWORTHY – Absorbed at age 3 from Mother

BETRAYAL
NERVOUSNESS – Absorbed at age 3 from Mother
HOPELESSNESS – Absorbed at age 3 from Mother
LONGING – Absorbed at age 7 from Mother
LACK OF CONTROL – Absorbed at age 8 from Father

PARENTAL SUPPORT
HATRED – Absorbed at age 8 from Mother
PANIC – Absorbed at age 8 from Mother
DISGUST – Absorbed at age 8 from Mother
ABANDONEMENT – Absorbed at age 8 from Mother
BETRAYAL – Absorbed at age 8 from Mother

UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL
LOW SELF-ESTEEM – Age 32
HATRED – Age 7
LACK OF CONTROL – Age 6
DESPAIR – Age 6

PROJECTED IDENTITY FROM MOTHER
SHAME – Absorbed at age 26 from Mother
HOPELESSNES – Absorbed at age 16 from Mother
DISGUST – Age 26
NERVOUSNESS – Absorbed at age 7 from Mother
HELPLESSNESS – Absorbed at age 26 from Mother
LONGING – Age 16
ANXIETY – Age 6
FAILURE – Age 6
JEALOUSY – Age 7

PROJECTED IDENTITY FROM FATHER
DISCOURAGEMENT – Absorbed at age 26 from Father
ANXIETY – Absorbed at age 26 from Father
JEALOUSY – Absorbed at age 34 from Father
HOPELESSNESS – Absorbed at age 16 from Father
SHAME – Absorbed at age 26 from Father
OVERWHELM – Absorbed at age 7 from Father
HUMILIATION – Absorbed at age 30 from Father

VIOLATION OF BOUNDARIES BETWEEN SELF AND OTHERS
HELPLESSNESS – Age 6
FAILURE – Age 27
SHAME – Age 7
FRUSTRATION – Age 7
HOPELESSNESS – Age 8
SHOCK – Age 9
TAKEN FOR GRANTED – Age 26
UNWORTHY – Age 28
LOST – Age 8
ABANDONEMENT – Age 8
REJECTION – Age 7

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